Something that has annoyed me grealty for most of the years of my life is the couple- not the couple themselves, but usually how the couple react to me or my prescense. So I have decided to take a stand on it. Ladies: I DO NOT WANT YOUR BOYFRIEND.
This is the message of this post, clear and simple. I consider myself to have average looks. I see myself realistically. My face isn't perfect, my body isn't perfect. My jaw is too stubborn, my brow kind of thick, my hair kind of wiry, my cheekbones a little too flat, my face somewhat round, my facial pores a little large, my nose kind of snippy, my lips a little thin, my eyelashes way too thin (thanks to my habit of toying with them) and on and on I could go critisizing myself.
I am a sociable person, but somewhat distant and rigid. I make acquaintances and contacts but I rarely committ to a close friendship, especially one that seems a little to restrictive. I like to spend a moment talking to a stranger, make his or her acquaintance, rub off of them, rub a little of me on them, and then pass out of their life quietly.
If I am an attractive lady it is through no fault of my own. I am no flirt. My ex-boyfriend was the playful one. I was the rigid other trying not to draw attention to myself at all costs. Compliments towards men are scarce. I am not a sympathetic or doting person. Extended conversations with men are a chore. And lastly, what kind of woman would want to steal another girl's man?
This is my reason for writing this. I want all of you couples to know how offensive and imature it is, especially when you are under the age of eighteen. I had such absolute faith in my guy friend that when he was surrounded by a group of females all competing for his attentions I left the fray, knowing he would handle it appropriately. I had no fears he would leave me for one of them.
When you and your partner, sitting alone- socially deprived, on a lonely cold loveseat while dozens of other happier youth frolic and talk and laugh together all around you, and you are approached by a lady who wants to talk, dare you give her that jealous look. In doing so, you accuse her of being a very low woman. Why would she want your boyfriend? Why would she want to hurt you?
If your boyfriend did take to her, would she want a guy that just dumped another girl? Might that guy do the exact same thing to her?
Might that guy not have any emotions to sort out about leaving his first girl? Personally, I can't even understand jumping from one companion to the next. After leaving one I would need a couple of weeks if not about three to four months to sort out my feelings, redirect my focus, and re-analyse what I am looking for in a companion of the opposite gender.
Then of course, there is the guy who wont give any other girl the time of day for fear of making his girlfriend jealous. For shame!! A man and woman must had enough grace that he or she can be socially cordial with any other person.
Jealousy in a partnership is a healthy thing in healthy doses. Remember that finding a companion of the opposite gender should not keep you from interacting with others of equal or opposite gender in casual and formal social functions.
I personally, do not have any interest in a man already claimed by a girl. That makes him all the more distasteful to me, because I do not want to see that my partner has had any interest in another. Ladies: I DO NOT WANT YOUR BOYFRIEND. Does that make you feel bad? Do you want me to want him?
No apologies. I have spoken. I don't want him.